Brief rant ...
First episode: The other woman is trying hard to convince me to join an about-to-be-formed local chapter of an organization. I'm trying equally hard to say a graceful no. It's taken me too long, but I've finally learned to resist the guilt trip that says, "oh, you should say yes to this" when a clear-eyed look at current commitments is screaming, "are you nuts?" The pull to say yes to her isn't strong enough to get past the clear-eyed no, especially since I hate being a member of any group in name only.
"What are you doing that you're that busy?" she asks. (Do I really hear that tone of voice?)
I explain, briefly, that I teach full-time. Another woman in the conversation notes her daughter is also a teacher and the conversation flows in other directions. But that tone ...
Second episode: A friend is asking Panther_tracks and me to her home for dinner. On the way to agreeing to do it today (as I type this), I note that Sunday won't work because Panther_tracks has an evening commitment that's likely to go long and mean we'd get to her house very late.
"But he doesn't have to work Monday," she says.
"But I do," I reply.
We settle on dinner tonight.
Some morals to these stories:
1. If someone is telling you she can't do something, especially join a group, believe her.
2. Just because my husband is retired doesn't mean I am or that I intend to retire in the immediate (or even near) future. As I tell people on a regular basis, I love my job.
3. Despite rumors to the contrary, teaching -- if you're trying to do it right -- takes time.